Days Alum Jen Lilley Reveals Heartbreaking Miscarriage BUT Has Good News Too!

Days alum Jen Lilley (Theresa) opens up about her miscarriage BUT also has some good news to share. Read more here--->>>









On October 16, 2018 Jen Lilley opened up about the bittersweet history that day holds for her. Lilley, who is best known as Theresa Donovan on Days of Our Lives revealed that she miscarried a child that was due on that day. It is also the day that her son is truly legally untethered from the biological parents. This paving the way for the adoption process. Soap Opera News send Lilley and family our love and prayers in regards to the miscarriage and the upcoming adoption. Read her entire post below:


This is a post unlike any other post I’ve ever posted, but I know for sure at least one of you profoundly needs to read this today ❤️
Today is October 16, 2018 and it’s a mix of emotions for me. THE GREAT NEWS: this plane can finally stop sitting on the runway and has cleared for take off! You see, Oct 16, 2018 marks the first day my son is truly legally untethered from this biological family. While bio parental rights were terminated months ago, today is the first day he’s no longer at risk of being taken from the only parents he’s really ever known because the appeals period has officially passed!!!!❤️🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 Being mommy to this little boy for the past 2 years and some odd weeks has been the most wonderful and transformational experience of my life. He’s made me cry harder than I’ve ever cried, pray more fervently than I’ve ever prayed, opened up an impossible depth of empathy for his biological momma, crafted me into a real momma bear, made me laugh harder than anyone’s ever made me laugh, and made me appreciate my husband more than I ever have. This little tot is truly a gift from God and experiencing every unpredictable up and down that comes with foster parenting and the crazy system has been worth it. We’ve still got a little ways to go, but legally we’re cleared to start the official adoption paper signing!
THE BITTERSWEET: yesterday was my due date. Wait what? Yes, like 1 out of every 4 women, I’ve miscarried. When it happened, I was devastated and felt so alone. I was 12 weeks along, just a week from telling my family, and beyond excited. I remember talking with my mom who said I had to tell my siblings because they needed to know I actually experienced heartache too, and I wasn’t picture perfect. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I remember retaliating. I’m a #fosterparent mom. My life is hard and I cry every day for these sweet innocent children I love with every drop of me but have zero say over their legal fate until adoption presents itself. 



My life is hard and I cry every day for these sweet innocent children I love with every drop of me but have zero say over their legal fate until adoption presents itself. They know my life isn’t easy.  Plus, this is the whole reason people wait til the second trimester to break the good news. So what, now I’m supposed to call them up and say, hey don’t get excited. I’m not pregnant, I just needed you to know I was!? Now let’s have an awful awkward and terribly sad conversation about my dead baby. I got off the phone and thought about it for a while. Then I realized, I will tell my siblings. But not because that somehow makes me less of a Stepford wife (which I know that’s not how my siblings see me, but thanks for that one mom), but because one in four women experience miscarriage. And maybe if we talked about it, we’d realize we’re not alone. I thought, one day I’ll talk about this in an interview, and for that reason, my family and very close friends should know so they’re not reading about it in the press. (Or Instagram post) But I share this news so you, yes you reading this know, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Miscarriage is sad, but it’s not something we need to cover up or feel shame about.

And here’s what else is crazy, after I told Jason I was pregnant, the second thing out of my mouth was, what are we going to do when baby X is born (my current foster son). How can we take our son’s brother if I’m super pregnant? Then we just sat there and thought, well, we’ll just figure it out. Now we have baby X, and while he’s in foster care, I’m still grateful I was able to take him and make room for him. Something I might not be able to do otherwise.
So back to 10/16/18. The first day I’m supposed to have my baby, I gain the child I’ve wanted more than anything and anyone for over two years. It’s a bittersweet day.
AND THE ALSO AWESOME: today, thanks to the incredible @MSLindsayWagner, I met DeAnne and Michael Durfee, the founders of ICAN4kids.org (inter-agency council on child abuse and neglect). Yes. On October 16, 2018, I got one significant step closer to my dream of helping to change the #fostercare system and truly helping end the cycle of abuse and neglect. It’s a dream I’ve been metaphorically pregnant with for a LONG time and I feel like today, I got to have the metaphorical baby. I’m day one of really crazy adventure of learning how to effectively navigate and change legislation to make a difference.
THE TAKE AWAY:  I think they’re needs to be a coming out of the closet movement for fostercare, adoption, and miscarriage. Let’s destigmatize our “dirty little secrets”. Because they’re not secrets, they’re connections. If you’re a #fosterparent, if you grew up in #fostercare or you’re #adopted. Say it loud and proud. If you’ve #miscarried, it’s time to learn you’re not alone. You are loved. You are empowered. You are a joy to me! 




This is a post unlike any other post I’ve ever posted, but I know for sure at least one of you profoundly needs to read this today ❤️ Today is October 16, 2018 and it’s a mix of emotions for me. THE GREAT NEWS: this plane can finally stop sitting on the runway and has cleared for take off! You see, Oct 16, 2018 marks the first day my son is truly legally untethered from this biological family. While bio parental rights were terminated months ago, today is the first day he’s no longer at risk of being taken from the only parents he’s really ever known because the appeals period has officially passed!!!!❤️🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 Being mommy to this little boy for the past 2 years and some odd weeks has been the most wonderful and transformational experience of my life. He’s made me cry harder than I’ve ever cried, pray more fervently than I’ve ever prayed, opened up an impossible depth of empathy for his biological momma, crafted me into a real momma bear, made me laugh harder than anyone’s ever made me laugh, and made me appreciate my husband more than I ever have. This little tot is truly a gift from God and experiencing every unpredictable up and down that comes with foster parenting and the crazy system has been worth it. We’ve still got a little ways to go, but legally we’re cleared to start the official adoption paper signing! THE BITTERSWEET: yesterday was my due date. Wait what? Yes, like 1 out of every 4 women, I’ve miscarried. When it happened, I was devastated and felt so alone. I was 12 weeks along, just a week from telling my family, and beyond excited. I remember talking with my mom who said I had to tell my siblings because they needed to know I actually experienced heartache too, and I wasn’t picture perfect. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I remember retaliating. I’m a #fosterparent mom. My life is hard and I cry every day for these sweet innocent children I love with every drop of me but have zero say over their legal fate until adoption presents itself. (Please go to comment section to continue reading my post. Good news ahead! Always grateful for your support.)
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Soap Opera News: Days Alum Jen Lilley Reveals Heartbreaking Miscarriage BUT Has Good News Too!
Days Alum Jen Lilley Reveals Heartbreaking Miscarriage BUT Has Good News Too!
Days alum Jen Lilley (Theresa) opens up about her miscarriage BUT also has some good news to share. Read more here--->>>
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