Y&R's Jordi Vilasuso (Rey Rosales) and wife Kaitlin experience a miscarriage. Please join us in sending them love--->>>
Our hearts and prayers are with the Vilasuso family as they face a very difficult time.
Kaitlin Vilasuso, the real-life wife of Jordi Vilausos (rey Rosales, The Young and the Restless) took to Instagram to reveal that they recently experienced a miscarriage. In a very emotional post, Kaitlin began, "It’s been a week + 1 day since I heard ‘Well, I see the baby. But I’m not seeing the heartbeat.. ohh... wait, there’s a flicker.. oh there’s another flicker.. yeah, no.. that’s not enough.. "
She went on, "That’s not enough. My baby. Our baby. The baby my girls had crossed their fingers for at lunch a few weeks ago, completely unaware that just a few days before I had visited my doctor for what I thought was a precautionary cervix check and a chance to see the heartbeat of our third little one. But instead I was given the ‘50/50’ odds that my dates were ‘off’ and everything was fine OR that it was an ‘abnormal pregnancy that would eventually end in miscarriage.’ Four long, emotionally and physically painful weeks later, I clearly got the latter.
And I never anticipated that it would hurt this much.
I know that miscarriage has a stigma surrounding it in a sense, with so many women who have experienced it being hesitant to talk about it. And now, being one of those ‘one in four women’ that I never thought I’d be.. I understand it even more. It’s a different kind of hurt than I’ve ever experienced. It is so personal. It - and the little heartbeat that was lost- almost feels too precious and sacred to be talked about. Just for starters.
I was hoping (even when things went super south) that I was documenting what would be a ‘success story.’ That ‘it was a hard road but we kept the faith and it all worked out and here’s a cute maternity picture of the girls holding my belly to announce their new little baby brother or sister!’ (I’m aware that’s not a proper sentence but definitely accurate in terms of how my mind is processing things these days. 🙈)
Instead- I’m here trying to figure out what this story is. And what the point of sharing it is because it just seems.. sad. But I know that God doesn’t work like that.. I know that there is absolute purpose in every season. That my heart is being molded. That God has a plan for our family far more perfect than I could ever envision...a God who creates beauty from ashes.
And perhaps in the sharing, someone going through this might feel a little less alone. A little more
normal’ for feeling intense grief over the loss of something she never really ‘knew.’ Maybe another momma will see that - no, you don’t need to feel ‘guilt’ over how bad it hurts just because you- like myself- have the blessing of previous beautiful, healthy babies before their miscarriage. Maybe one day, someone will come across this post and then scroll through my feed to find pictures of a healthy pregnant belly or a happy family of five and it will give them hope after their own loss. Hope that it’s possible to carry another child after it feels like your body has failed you and your baby. Or maybe they’ll see a momma of two on the other side of grief- at peace with the path God has guided her on. A marriage that has gotten even stronger because we’ve weathered another storm together. I don’t know.
But I do know that, for now, I’m going to hold my two girls and be wildly grateful for their beautiful lives and the blessing of getting to be their momma, while at the same time grieving the one I won’t ever get to hold. And that’s okay.
I am wildly grateful for the amount of love and support we have had from our family and closest friends in the past few weeks.. one friend, my @lilvport11 , in particular holding my hand through it all and knowing just the right things to say, having walked this road more than once herself.. The kind comments and texts from some of you who didn’t even know what was going on. More on that later, but there aren’t enough words to express how appreciative we are."
Please join us in sending the family some love!
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